Everything you need to know about sex toys
Once considered kinky or exotic, sex toys can now be found on the shelves of small retail stores and boutique websites as well as major corporate chains and the ecommerce giants. They are now widely considered a positive and healthy way to explore your sexuality by medical and mental health professions.
Even with their huge popularity it can still be difficult finding straightforward, honest information about sex toys. Most sex toy information is created by marketers and publicists, so the messages are likely biased.
Increased media attention to sex toys doesn’t always translate into better information either. There continue to be many myths about sex toys, some of which you can find repeated in entertainment media, and even occasionally, news media.
Some popular sex toy myths include:
- Only lonely people and losers use sex toys.
- You can become addicted to sex toys.
- If you use sex toys too much it can ruin “regular” sex for you.
- Sex toys can fix your sexual problems.
Different Kinds of Sex Toys
There is nothing like the Periodic Table for sex toys; there are no exact definitions or answers as to what is and isn’t a sex toy, or what is the absolute difference between a vibrator, a dildo, and butt plug. But to make life easier, sex toys can be categorized by function such as those defined to the left.
Vibrators: A sex toy with a motor that whirrs, it creates extra stimulation beyond how you move it.
Dildos: Sex toys made for penetration that only move as much as you move them yourself.
Harnesses: Allows you to use a dildo without holding it in your hands. Most harnesses go around your waist, some go around your thigh, or can be strapped to furniture.
Anal Sex Toys: Toys that are designed for safe anal penetration. They will have a flared base, and have a smooth and seamless surface.
Lubricants: Essential for use with other sex toys, lubricant makes sex slippery, often more sensitive and more comfortable. Also required for anal penetration.
Penis Rings: A ring that’s worn around the base of the penis that can create pleasurable pressure for the wearer. Some men report rings can prolong an erection.
Penis Pumps: Pumps will not permanently enlarge the penis, but some men enjoy the pressure sensation and use pumps for masturbation. Pumps may be used on other parts of the body as well.
BDSM Toys: Also known as power play toys, these include floggers, paddles, nipple clamps, restraints, blindfolds, and more.
Luxury Sex Toys: A newer category of sex toys, well designed and made from the best quality materials and motors.
Homemade Sex Toys: Many people find the best sex toys are the ones they make at home. Be careful to use common sense when using homemade sex toys.
Adult Movies: Sex films can be used as a sex toy to stimulate sexual thoughts and actions whether it’s an individual or couple watching.
Erotica: Like movies, erotic fiction can be integrated into sex play as partners read to each other, use erotic fiction for inspiration, or directly act out scenes from what they’ve read.